Turn the pain of love in your favor: Uncover simple strategies to make him fall in love
Before I asked my girlfriend out she actually thought she was cursed never to fall in love
But this was far from the truth. She just didn’t have the right strategies.
The only way to retain love is to give it away.” – Elbert Hubbard
What does it really take to make a man fall in love? This question should be rephrased as Why would it be challenging to make him fall in love?
And that’s what I am going to take you through from a guy’s perspective.
First things first,
What is love? I am laughing while I type this question. Not because it’s funny, but because it’s been hyped so much. The so-called relationship gurus will give you all the complex jargon to explain what love is.
For me, love is something we all want, and it’s as simple as that. Do you agree?
But then you wonder, if we all need that thing [love], why is it a challenge to find?
My answer would be: It’s because we all want it and like anything in high demand, it will always be competitive and challenging to have and maintain.
That’s why making him fall in love becomes tricky.
What if I told you that by the end of reading this article, you will have all you need to make him fall in love?
Let’s jump right in..
These strategies can be helpful if you truly love him. I guess you wouldn’t be reading all this if you didn’t.
4 Surprisingly Easy Strategies to Make Him Fall in Love With You
#1: Be real.
My first girlfriend and I were friends for just over 1 year. I wasn’t sure if she was real from her actions. She was never straightforward with me.
One day I asked her why she is always ignoring me even when I ask for simple things. She still ignored me! But I could see she wasn’t who she was trying to be. But maybe she wanted to use it as a hook.
Guys distrust fake women. Being real could help him fall in love with you. Most women act differently when they first start dating. Some guys think it means you don’t like them and think you’re not real.
Real means being clear with him. Tell him you need time. This shows his reaction. A man who likes you will listen, ask questions, and talk about it. Answers will give you an idea of how you make him love you. Real people offer honesty and sincerity in relationships.
#2: Making him feel valued
She lived right next door to me, and when she was moving, I helped her pack. I was shocked that she didn’t even say thank you after I helped them carry a dozen heavy boxes to the truck.
This is not for just men but for all human beings. We love to be valued for any little or big thing that we are involved in.
Making him love you while you don’t value him makes him very insecure. You don’t need to do much to value him. You value him by simply
- Acknowledging him for any effort that he shows in anything that you share.
- Men love it when you show them appreciation for their gestures.
- Most men will hide their emotions, but if you can value and cherish them, falling in love will be a breeze.
#3: Keep things interesting.
Love is meant to be exciting and interesting. Maybe he is the quiet type or very strict with life. Regardless of the type, keeping the relationship exciting can lead him to fall in love with you.
After a long time of trying to ask her out, she finally said yes. hurray!! But she was as dull as you could possibly imagine. I won’t lie, I was also one of those guys who kept things to themselves, but I thought she would give me some inspiration.
You find men who are very quiet or “boring,” but it could be that they don’t have anyone to trigger them into fun and excitement. Some people have had a very boring upbringing right from their childhood.
This doesn’t mean they are naturally introverts. Light up his life with creative ideas such as:
- engaging him in hobbies of his interest
- Sharing new experiences with him, such as visiting new places (restaurants, bars, vacation places)
These kinds of things create fresh conversations to supplement those you already have. This gives both of you a chance to learn more about yourselves and, more importantly, your relationship. Be creative and lighten him up so that when you aren’t around him, he misses you and loves you even more.
#4: Love goes with respect.
I remember having a conversation with my girlfriend about the idea I was thinking about. Before she even understood what it was all about, she gave me a very bad attitude.
She claimed that I would not have time for her. She didn’t take time to understand but jumped to a conclusion. I thought it was disrespectful.
They say love without respect is like a ship sailing without a compass. This doesn’t mean you have to bow to him and be his servant. This is to respect and acknowledge his feelings and boundary ideas. However, this also has to be mutual respect in practice.
He cannot be disrespectful to you if you are the opposite. This does not need to be a difficult task. It’s the little acts that make a huge difference in making him fall in love, like:
- Listening attentively when he is talking to you
- validating and acknowledging his emotions
- respecting his opinions and interests
Of course, it’s not practical that you have to agree to everything, but it’s about understanding and accepting possible differences. When you listen with respect and give room for explaining what you don’t agree with, you give him a chance to be understood.
4 Qualities You Need to Make Him Fall in Love
We have talked about strategies, but these strategies go hand in hand with qualities. You need the following qualities to empower the above strategies and make him fall for you:
#5: Confidence:
When you are confident, you are unstoppable. Confidence quality is not for everyone, but it is certainly something that you can develop. It’s just a matter of believing in yourself and your worth.
You can easily make him fall in love if he sees confidence in you. Men want to feel a sense of security, and when they have a strong and confident woman on their side, they will fall for her.
Even though my girl had some bad traits, as I said above, she was very confident in herself. She liked herself and had faith in all of her goals.
#6: An outgoing personality
No one loves boring people. A relationship is meant to be fun and joyful. A man would die for a woman with a sense of humor. I don’t mean that you have to be the funniest. You just have to loosen up and crack that joke if you can. Don’t get me wrong; not everyone can be funny, but everyone can try to lighten up. Not only men, but everyone wants to be with someone who makes them fun to be around.
Some people have a naturally outgoing personality and can showcase it. My girlfriend had a great personality but she was so reserved and kept it to herself. I discovered this after she decided to expose it and I was blown away!
#7: Independent
Having your own interests and goals makes you a respected individual. This quality makes the relationship exciting. He will feel more comfortable falling in love with you knowing that you will not be a financial burden. This is not more about finances, but I have used it as a key point, among other things. When you are independent, you make your decisions based on your personal needs. This will give him more room to adjust to falling in love with you.
I think independence comes from within. You have to be confident in who you are. My girlfriend had so much confidence in herself and independence for her came naturally. I think that’s why she wasn’t trying enough to make me fall in love with her. Because she thought she had it all.
#8: Kindness
Who doesn’t like or love kind people? This quality is about showing sympathy, treating others with much care and respect, and most importantly, being considerate. No man would skip over a woman who is kind. If kindness is a quality that you lack, then try to learn how to be kind. Without a doubt, he will fall in love with you.
When you get to know someone more, you get to understand them even more. My girlfriend was never kind to me but to others. I later learned she was hurt from her previous relationship and she lost faith in most of the qualities.
Final Words
Making a man fall in love with you might involve a lot more than I was able to highlight. I based all these on y personal experience as a guy. My girlfriend had some and missed some. That’s part of the game, and you cannot have it all.
I strongly believe that the above can be a great yardstick to use. I know that as humans, we have different tastes. Maybe you have all the above, but he wants more or other different qualities.
I would strongly suggest you engage him and get to know what he expects of you. I know such conversations aren’t for everyone. Some feel like it’s too much to ask, and others are scared of rejection. My girlfriend and I had most of the difficult conversations. I had to prove to her that not all men are the same and if the previous one hurt her, she shouldn’t expect the same from me. Of course, you can’t read anyone’s heart or mind but again you cannot pause life from moving on and so is love.
My personal opinion is that you would rather take a risk and know sooner than later. Engage them in deep conversations, use the above strategies, and check your qualities or learn those suggested.
Making him fall in love with you would be the best thing because love is beautiful. Knowing what you want and pursuing it will get you to that exciting moment.
I would love to hear from you if you tried any of my strategies or qualities listed above. How did it go? Would you share something different that worked for you?