To get a guy to notice you, be confident and unapologetically yourself. Authenticity is magnetic
Are you in the wild, looking for that lucky animal to get a guy to notice you?
Have you been trying to catch the attention of guys, but they seem to be looking in other directions?
Are you having a hard time finding possible ways to make a guy notice you?
If any of the above is true or close to true, you are tuned into the right channel. I will guide you through some great insights on how to get any guy to notice you.
But before I dig deep into the nitty gritty, let me tell you a little story about my personal experience.
I’m a guy, and the reason I chose this topic is because a girl once targeted me to notice her.
It all started when I was 19 years old. Living in a small town with not many people This particular girl’s name was Caroline. She wasn’t one of the hottest girls in town, but she was brilliant.
Grab some popcorn and your preferred beverage, and let’s dive into how to get a guy to notice you.
#1: Impression:
They say that the first impression tends to stick. This is very true, and this is how Caroline used it to make me notice her. She used her appearance in a way that signified that she truly loved herself. She was dressed in a nice pair of tight jeans and a short bra.
Her tight jeans were tight enough to show her build. To be honest, she didn’t have much of what I liked about girls in terms of physical shape. What struck me was how happy and confident she looked. That made me get ideas and notice her.
We were just getting off a bus from a tournament, and just as I stepped out of the bus, she came walking in a very sexy way that I will never forget. She gave me one of the most beautiful smiles and just walked by without even saying hello. She actually intended this because she walked close, almost bumping into me. But what was more interesting was how she kept close eye contact without saying a word to me!
She walked with ease and confidence in her outfit, and her hair was well done. However, the kind of perfume she wore stood out more. I won’t lie to you, but I can still smell that perfume to this day.
So, the takeaways from this first nugget are:
Being confident
- Walk close by.
- Make eye contact.
- Dressing smart
- Smelling great
As I already said, she didn’t say anything but smile at me. I watched her walk for about 100 meters while I stood still.
#2: Body language control
When I saw Caroline again, it was two days after she had left me feeling something. I ran into her outside of a store close by. When she said hello to me for the first time, I didn’t know what to say back.
She stood tall in a line with a friendly smile and kept eye contact with me. She flirted with her body, but she did it in a lovely way. She kept touching her neck and flicking her beautiful hair. All of this happened very quickly, but it was interesting to me.
The takeaways here are:
- Your body language (standing tall) says so much. Use it more. Guys love flirtatious body language. You don’t need to fake it. Just use what you have and be yourself.
- A genuine smile calls for attention. Strike him with it.
- Keeping eye contact can be so significant in making a guy notice you. I have mentioned eye contact before. The first time she did this, it was not too short but long enough to make me feel her. This time, she didn’t hold it for too long, either. This means that you need to balance how long you hold eye contact. It’s not too short or too long to make it look creepy.
Again, we didn’t talk much other than the hello that she offered me.
#3: Confident communicator
I was lucky to see Caroline again five days after our first meeting at the convenience store. We met at a friend’s clothing store this time. This time, we got a little closer and were able to talk a little bit. She knew that I played sports.
So she began asking me about my team. She had that kind of confidence while we talked. She asked me very interesting questions. Caroline was a good communicator. She would let me answer her questions without interference or talking in between.
At the end of the conversation, I learned she had a hobby in netball!
Take way:
- The way you communicate determines a lot about how a guy might notice you.
Caroline didn’t ask me a lot of useless questions. She didn’t ask me a lot of irrelevant questions. She let our talk go in an exciting and natural way.
#4: Sharing interests and hobbies
When I found out that she played netball, it gave us something in common and made us want to find out more about each other. In the end, we decided to go to her practice session. She had excellent netball skills.
Take away:
- Share Interests: When you’re trying to get a guy’s attention, you try to share interests and hobbies. You do not necessarily have to be a sportsperson or a fan. If you have an interest in anything else, share it with him. Many people want to hear about other people’s interests, even if they have no idea. Actually, if the guy has no idea about a particular interest or hobby, it creates more conversation, and in the process of explaining, that is when a guy might notice you.
- Skills: Showing your skills can make a huge difference in getting noticed. As I mentioned, you don’t necessarily have to be in sports. Just show the guy your cooking, gyming, or walking skills. If you claim you don’t have any skills, then you probably aren’t paying much attention to yourself. Did you know doing laundry can be a skill? But won’t do laundry, there is. So, there is no reason you cannot showcase your skills to get the guy to notice you.
#5: Be creative and ask him out.
Caroline was really getting me hooked. We met again at the convenience store. It turns out she likes the coffee that they make, and it’s my favorite, too. She was very creative in asking me out, but in a way, I didn’t expect it. She said, There is this big concert at the arena, and I have always wanted to attend, but I am not sure if I will be free this weekend!
Do you see where she is leading me?
I quickly jumped and said, I am free this weekend; can we go attend?
She still pretended she wasn’t sure, but she would let me know.
How will she let me know? I had to give her my contact number!
See how she’s getting a guy to notice her, but creatively?
Take away:
- Be creative, and ask him out. Find anything you tell him that triggers him to want to be with you. But do not seem desperate.
Get his contact number creatively.
#6: Bring your flirting game on.
I know I have already mentioned flirting, but I can tell you that this is a game-changer for making a guy notice you even more.
Once we got to the arena, Caroline showed me her other side of sweetness. The way she was licking her lips and twirling her hair was magical.
Take away:
Flirt with him: You just have to find subtle ways to flirt. You don’t have to be too much on him, but simple lip licking, hair twirling, and a bit of simple teasing will definitely make him notice you.
#7: Positivity is very important in this game.
The little conversations I had with Caroline were enough to indicate her upbeat personality. Because nobody wants to be associated with negative people. Positivity helps not only in relationships but in other areas, such as careers or business. To lose those extra pounds, you need to be positive.
Take away:
- Be a cheerful girl. Positivity is infectious, and when a guy finds you optimistic, he will be very keen to notice you.
#8: What makes you unique?
This makes you stand out from the crowd of many other women. Remember, men see and can notice many women. What makes you so unique that you can be the only one he notices?
As for Caroline, she mentioned very fascinating experiences that she has had in the past. Things that I couldn’t expect but were extraordinary.
Take away:
- Make him see you as a particular person.
Even if the guy you want is at your workplace, show them that you have some special skills by doing something unique or amazing at your job. Even if the guy you want is in your college, show your specialization by answering questions in class or taking the lead in group projects. Guys will notice any smart girl in college.
#9: Can you find a common factor?
Besides what I mentioned earlier about Caroline and my sports passions, she found something else we had in common. We both love reading books. For you, it might be watching TV series, going to the movies, or going to the gym. If you have something in common, you can find some relevant topics to talk about. With so much to talk about, it leads to a guy noticing you.
Take away:
- Find something in common.
If you find it difficult to start a normal conversation, this can help you find a starting point. Additionally, you will be able to determine if he notices you based on how interested he is in the things you have in common.
#10: Dress like you’re going to kill.
There is magic in dressing sexy. I remember Caroline dressing sexy on every occasion I met her. This was obvious; I would notice her every outfit.
Any guy will notice you when you dress in those killing attires. Of course, it might be different if the guy is at your workplace. You might be limited to rocking those mini-killing dresses. However, you can still be creative and put on something that you trust will bring out your cuteness. I can tell you that trying to get a guy to notice you with those shabby, baggy clothes will never cut it.
Take away:
- Dress Sexy
#11: Pretend to be busy
One of the best ways to make a guy notice you is to play the scarcity game. Pretending you are busy makes him long for you. Caroline was working at the local library. Whenever I popped in to check on her, she would pretend to be so busy. She would see me coming in and pretend entirely that she never recognized me coming in.
Take away:
- When you pretend to be busy and don’t see him, it gives him a chance to notice you honestly. However, when you quickly give him attention, you lose out on seeing your beauty while he thinks you are aware.
#12: Show him your best side.
It sounds and feels bizarre to think of showing a guy any of your packages, such as your tits, bum, or upper leg. Believe me, any guy will die to have a glimpse at any of your assets.
Caroline pretends to have accidentally shown me her upper leg (thigh). He meets her at a community laundromat, and he is leaning against the wall. She creatively and unpredictably shows me her one sexy asset. I am caught in it, and she definitely makes me notice her.
Take away:
- If you find a convenient way to showcase any of your sexy assets, do it. However, be careful not to overdo it. Just creatively pretend you did it accidentally. Guys love it, and you will grab his attention.
#13: Help him or give him support in his activities.
Being a sports person, I always had small local soccer tournaments. Caroline will always be there to lend me a hand in any area where she can. You, too, can actively support him. It can be anything, like helping organize an event, be it a family one or a community one, as long as he is part of it.
You keep him hooked so he can notice you. One of the best areas for a guy to notice you is where there are few women. So, if you happen to get a chance like that, grab it with both hands.
#14: Always smell amazing
I mentioned how great Caroline smelled the first time she walked past me. But I want to emphasize that smelling good is a superb trap for a guy to notice you. In all the times I met Caroline, she always smelled great.
And, by the way, it doesn’t necessarily have to be the most expensive designer perfume. You can decide to smell yummy by coming to meet him after baking. Do you know how much men enjoy tasty foods?
#15: Kindness is a trap for guys
I believe that being kind will help you stand out to everyone, not just guys. Don’t be that cool and lovely coworker or classmate who turns into a whore when you meet a guy. You will get his attention by being a kind girl. There is something great about being kind, and if you remain the same, you are certainly assured that the guy will notice you. Caroline was one kind person that no guy would notice.
#16: Are you easy to find?
The guy will not notice you if he can’t find you. Try to be in the right place at the right time. To get his attention, you will try to make yourself available. Find out where he hangs out. Be there when necessary without looking like a stalker.
If you like working out, as I did, bump into him like Caroline used to bump into me at the gym or the convenience store. If your guy is a bargoer, avail yourself at the bar or anywhere else you know he will find you.
#17: Engage him in any sort of conversation.
If all of the above seems to be leading you nowhere, get his attention. Then, find a way to fire up a conversation. If you work together, find something he always talks about and start there. If you go to college with him and are in the same class, start a conversation by asking him about the topic you studied.
#18: Don’t make yourself hard to get.
It makes no sense to want a guy to notice you, but you play hard to get it. This could potentially lead him to lose his appetite. If he finds the courage to ask you anything that could lead you to be with him, don’t make it so hard. He asks you if you will be coming to that church event. Just give him a simple, straight answer: yes or no. That will make him feel guilty that it’s making you uncomfortable for going to such an event.
#19: Listen attentively.
At this time, you probably got his attention and were able to hang out. Listen attentively. One of the things I see happening these days is people hanging out, but instead of having a sensible conversation, either one or both are on their mobile devices. Don’t do it. Show him your full attention. You will feel terrible if he has his hands glued to his mobile phone while you hang out.
#20: Be willing to try new things.
If the guy you want to notice spends his weekend fishing because you’ve never gone fishing, don’t let him down with excuses. This is a new adventure; get out of your comfort zone and try new things. This is where you have many chances of getting more of his attention and making him notice you. Go with him and crack some good jokes about how you went fishing with your uncle and caught a big fish that accidentally hoked out and went back to the water, or any other good conversation that you find comfortable.
#21: Free yourself from the past.
If you had a bad relationship in the past,. Some guy broke your heart. I am sorry, but you have to let go and focus on what’s at stake. So many women who have had terrible experiences in relationships—being cheated on or abused—carry all this baggage and expect to grab a guy’s attention while loaded with their stormy past. However, you might find a man who will care about your past; not all men are the same. So be careful with this, as it can draw him away.
#22: Avoid over-texting.
Here, you have to play scarcity games. If you have been maintaining the ritual of asking him how his day was in the evening or his night in the morning, hold back.
This also involves all other modes of contact (email, phone calls). When you start to become scarce on his grid, he craves you more. However, you have to play this game with caution. Don’t take long to make him think you lost interest.
#23: Protect your privacy.
You should be cautious about matters such as your future desires, especially if they are more specific, such as the type of marriage arrangement and family you desire to raise.
This may intimidate him, as most men prefer to have a girlfriend and appreciate their time with her prior to committing to more significant responsibilities. Mentioning children and other responsibilities may cause him to believe that you intend to exert pressure on him to support your goals.
#24: Make him want it even more.
If the guy notices you and finally gets his attention, and you find yourselves someplace closer together, this is the right time to show him some flirting skills. However, what’s not acceptable is to be all over him and even give in and sleep with him.
You got what you wanted, so take your time and get ready for love. Make him want it a little more to keep his interest up. This will make you look good and keep you having fun.
I’m sure I’ve given you a mouthful of suggestions for getting a guy to notice you. If the aforementioned fails to hook him, try fishing for someone else. Perhaps he wasn’t meant to be.
This guide would be incomplete without a list of things to avoid. Even if you want him to notice you, it must happen while you maintain your principles and attributes. Some of the things you don’t have to be or do are as follows:
#1: Never change who you are. Keep it authentic. Faking will bite you back.
#2: Being desperate might only make him notice you, but with the wrong intentions.
#3: Don’t depend on him; make him the center of your life.
#4: Don’t lose your friends because of a guy. Keep your friends close; you never know where this guy is taking you.
#5: Don’t let him drive you to things that you don’t believe in.
#6: Don’t lose focus on your personal goals.
#7: Don’t change your personality because of a guy.
#8: Don’t try so hard to please him when necessary.
#9: Don’t be jealous of his friends, be they boys or girlfriends.
#10: Don’t be judgmental without reasoning.
In Conclusion:
There you have it! I am sure you have a handful of tips and tricks to grab his attention. i will just end this with “Key takeaways:
- #1: Share Interests: When you’re trying to get a guy’s attention, you try to share interests and hobbies.
- #2: Find something in common.
- #3: You will get his attention by being a kind girl.
However, what’s not acceptable is to be all over him and even give in and sleep with him. You got what you wanted, so take your time and get ready for love.